Change yourself First

If you want to see change outside, it is necessary that first, you change yourself from the inside. 

It’s true because if you are expecting that people talk nicely with you then it means that you must talk nicely to them. First give and then take. You would never be able to take first until you don’t give. 

Really, it’s a great learning. I knew already but today when I watched ted video, it got firmed in my mind. 

There are multiple examples in our daily life. You can analyse and come on conclusion. 

Treat People How They Want to Be Treated

Yesterday I was reading an article and got new learning “Treat people how they want to be treated”.

I analysed it and understood that it is correct also. We should not treat person how you want to be treated. It is obsolete now.

I am a person who always treat others in a way which I like. But it is not always correct. Happy! New learning.

I went in past and found that at many places I was treating the persons which I was preferring.

Usually I like simplicity and that’s a reason I choose simple dresses and I was gifting same to them. But now I came to know that everyone doesn’t like simple dresses. So I should think by putting myself in their shoes. I should gift them according to their likes.

Sometimes some persons like to be treated nicely but you are a person who doesn’t like same. So if you miss to treat them nicely then issues come up. On the other side, if you treat them in a way which they like. Relationship will be nice and peace will be also maintained. But we miss and treat them in our way. They get hurt and relationship get affect.

Sometimes some persons don’t like to wait but you don’t have issue in waiting for some time. Just imagine, if we understand their way and we also do fast then no issues will come up.

If we analyse then we will find many examples in life.

We all are humans but every person is different in their own way. What do you like, other won’t like. Sometimes it matches. Some persons like peace but some persons like to be surrounded by many persons/friends. Some of them like sweet but some of them like spicy. Everyone is having their own different choices.

If we learn this new way then really peace will be there in relations. J

Push yourself for Achieving Success

For achieving success, we need many more things like passion, focus, Ideas, hard work but one more important point which I came to know today is Push Yourself.

Yes, it is true, we have to push ourselves.

By nature, Humans are lazy persons. They want to do what they like. They don’t want to do what they don’t like. But whatever we don’t like, that’s only good for us.

There are many examples in life. For example, an apple. Generally we don’t like but we know when we have regularly one apple, it will be good for our health. Similarly we like to have Junk food which is not good for health.

Now I come on the point of Push ourselves.

In morning, I want to start at 8:15-8:20. For that, I need to wake up at 5:30-5:45 but I don’t wake up. Alarm rings but I switched off and sleep again. But just imagine, if I push myself and wake up by 5:45 then I can do all my tasks on time. I can start from my house on time. I would not stuck in traffic. There is no need to do tasks hurriedly. Starting from house at 8:20, can give me success means I can do all my tasks calmly and reach office on time.

Like ways, in our life, we do all tasks but if we push ourselves little bit, we can achieve a different level of success. We will be successful in achieving our goals.

So I am deciding that, ill push myself somewhat and expect that I would be able to achieve success.

Hoping, you will also push yourself.

Priorities Change with Time

It is true that our priorities get change with time. I learnt this hardly.

When I was working in previous organization, one of my senior told that every time you can’t chase your dreams because other priorities also matter for you. It’s your duty that you must concentrate towards your other priorities and complete them with dedication. At that time, I just heard and forgot.

Now I realized and thought to write a blog on this.

When we are young, our family and own life are at high priorities. We work for making them happy. We think for making us happy by different ways. Sometime, we dream to score nice, buy new dresses, bicycles, two wheeler and spending time with friends. We gift to our family, spend time with them and make them feel good.

Once we get marry, our priorities get change suddenly. Still your own life and family matters but you are married now. You have stepped into new phase of life. You have to take care of your partner, in-laws. If you get children, then you have to take care of them also. Now new responsibilities come on your head. Every time you can’t do what you like. Sometime you have to sacrifice your wishes. I have seen my mom and mother- in- law. Many times they have sacrificed their wishes. Even my husband, do many tasks according to me.

I want to give a message that as time pass, your priorities also varies. So understand your priorities by the time and do work according to that.

Girls

Girls have to teach many more things to their mind. Sometimes they don’t want but they have to do. Sometimes they want but they are not able to do because circumstances are not in favor.

There are many examples- Once she born in this world, she does not know that she is a girl. Slowly it is taught by her parents that she is a girl. From childhood onward, it is taught to her that learn adjustments. You have to move to some other house.

Once she is the age of 6-7 years old, she has to take care of her siblings. If they want something, she has to give them. I also gave many times to my brother whenever he was asking. My mom used to say to me you are elder. You should take care.

When a girl get marry, she has to leave house of her father. She does not want to leave but she has to teach her mind that now your house is getting changed. Your in- law’s house is your house.

Once she goes there. She may doesn’t know cooking perfectly. Even this thing happened with me. I was not knowing cooking nicely but a girl has to enter in kitchen and prepare a food.

Once she start living there, she has to teach her mind that her in- laws are like her parents. Her sister in laws are her sisters and brother-in law’s are brothers. It takes time but slowly she start understanding this thing also.

Once she understand all this things, she has to dedicate for her house. Everyone has lots of expectations from her. At many more places she does willingly and unwillingly.

Girls really great personalities in this world. Salute to girls.